Grieving A Love One Who Has Died From Cancer

The death of a love one can be the most difficult task anyone can go through, but the death of a love one who has been through the ups and downs of cancer, grief can be intensified. For months you have had hope, pain and despair one part of you hoping the diagnosis of cancer was wrong. The other standing strong and trying to prepare for a life without your love one. There are feelings of gracefulness that your love ones pain is over but there is also that hurt inside that makes you wish they were still here.I have picked up the funeral service book for the fourth time this month to send out thank you cards to friends and relatives who have been supportive,few words can express how important this support can be.
Because your emotions are so torn it may be some time before you allow yourself to grieve. There is a period where you just get through what you need to get through and then you began to realize that your love one is really gone. Like anyone else losing a love one grieving begins. Cancer death is always followed by what kind of cancer did they die from? Did they smoke? Or they are in a better place. All comments are with the best intentions but they leave you with a multitude of emptiness. Because the battle of cancer can be so long term for not only the cancer patient but also the caregiver understanding that these emotions are alright and sometimes necessary for you to move on. My family and I all took care of my mother at home my brother,niece and I live here in the same city as my mother. My sister came home from Kansas for three months to spend time with her with the help of family leave for relative who have a extremely ill family member. My brother left his home in California and moved back home the last three months of my mothers life to also take care of her. We all said a prayer for her with our family members a day before she died. We all kept our promise we would take care of her until she died. We all said good-by to her in our own way before she died and then it was time for a funeral... Now here we are after months of a joint venture of care for our mother we try to go on with our lives, we grieve separate. My sister and brother have returned home out of town and my other brother and I are in our own homes and the real grieving has begun.